How do you know if you still love her?

How do you know if you still love her ?This was a question that was asked by one of my best friends. She and her partner have been together for over ten years. To us they look like they are the perfect couple for each other and that no one could ever come between them. I am lost for words and I don't know how to respond.

I feel people just don’t fall out of love! When your heart leaves it leaves. But, somewhere inside of you, you want to try because you don’t want to look like the bad person or you just don't know how to move on without hurting her. Sometimes things happen for a reason.

Knowing if you love her involves some serious soul searching. In order to love someone else, you must first love yourself. Write down how you do feel about her. For example: you enjoy her company, have similar interests, feel safe, trust her, think she is attractive, etc. Distinguish between love and lust or infatuation. Lust is an intense sexual desire. Infatuation refers to the initial stage of a relationsip when you are "crazy" about her, but this feeling usually fades over time. But this does not mean that you don't love her.

When the love is there you will know its there. If you question your love for a person, then it must be that your heart is not in it anymore. You need to Remember that at the end of the day its all about you and no one else… do whats best for you.